I hope it works for you and that you feel healthy and fantastic in your body. I also think your husband is a bit of a jerk though.

HRT is not hormonal BC. For one, HRT is modulated across the cycle, BC is not. For two, HRT is much lower levels of hormones than BC – which is designed to mimic pregnancy levels.

Women’s health is severely under-studied but contemporary research finds that Estrogen plays a systemic role across multiple organs and systems in women’s bodies, including neurological function. It is not everything but it is a central factor for women of menopausal and peri-menopausal age, affecting everything from self-concept to kidney function.

Well, sadly many women have come on here looking for confirmation that their husbands are in fact….. jerks…. as they don’t quite see it.

Of course… Just an interesting case. The point was the unique focus on memory/memorizing – not intelligence per se. And the continued practice of it for years and years. There is some evidence for this.

And most dementias are not sudden, so dementia as a catch all term is problematic. Your grandmother’s issue was likely different from someone with progressive Alzheimer’s vs. someone who had progressive step-wise strokes/brain trauma etc…. And there are so many other causes.

To never have to work or labor for a livelihood.
I’d be an eccentric society woman.
The country house with a staff to help run. Probably an estate/land manager whose a bit older than me to run the place and to have daliances with over the years. We’d care for each other and be each others confidants but not married or exclusive.
I’d have at least 3 horses and a pony. A garden and a greenhouse. A large arbour of wisteria or something similar.
I’d spend my days doing foral arrangements, touring the gardens and rambling the countryside, and crafting, and reading.
An apartment in the city that has a skylit painting studio that opens to a rooftop balcony.
I’d winter in the city apartment and attend theater shows in the evenings. Maybe be imvolved in some volunteer or committee work.
I’d do occassional design work, of various stripes, for commission.
If magic was possible, I’d be more pretty and charming.
I’d have friends who’d come and go as they pleased, staying in my home as long as they liked with standing invitations.
My shoe collection would be extensive.