I also hate exercising. I’m 41 and trying to lose about 10 lbs. A couple weeks ago, I bought a subscription app (JustFit) for like $40 for the year. You fill out a bunch of questions about sex, age, current weight, target weight, what areas you want to focus on, whether you have equipment or not, etc. and you are assigned a daily 15-20 minute set of exercises that you can do with just a mat (unless you have equipment). I like it because they are simple exercises, you break a light/decent sweat and between doing that every day and adding in a 30-minute walk, I’m starting to see some results. It’s something you could do while watching a TV show.

The Pequot Library summer book sale starts on July 26!

Captain Awkward would call this the “golden retriever of love” thing–your heart is searching for any way to make it work but the reality is it can’t (her advice column is great, btw).

I think a clear, direct statement + focusing on the logistics of the breakup + a clean break (block/delete/move to archives) for one month for each year you were together is typically advised.

“friends” with someone you think was your one shot and don’t want to break up with I think is only going to hurt you worse as you have to hear about Ms. CutiePants he’s now schtupping or whatever.

But also, if this is the World Traveler who declined to move to *you* or adjust to your life I would say that he’s not the one! He could have made choices to downshift, settle into one place, change jobs, and so on.

If you order them well done they’re edible. But not delicious.

My problem is that I like larger portions of high-calorie foods (like, a cup of trail mix rather than 1/4 cup, or 3 oz of cheese cubes instead of 1, and 1/3 cup of peanut butter with my some slices instead of 2 Tbsp). And then I don’t exercise.

But this morning I did my free weight exercises and I feel proud of myself. Also have been working on enjoying an apple for its own sake, using smaller bowls for snack foods (little condiment cups rather than ramekins), and trying to ask myself if I really want a particular snack or if I am just bored and need to do something else besides eating.

A glass of icy water or a cup of tea?