Comments on: What Do You Do To Feel More Authoritative? https://corporette.com/how-to-feel-more-authoritative/ A work fashion blog offering fashion, lifestyle, and career advice for overachieving chicks Tue, 24 May 2022 19:16:12 +0000 hourly 1 https://wordpress.org/?v=6.5.5 By: Nonny https://corporette.com/how-to-feel-more-authoritative/#comment-4304819 Tue, 24 May 2022 15:44:38 +0000 https://corporette.com/?p=131533#comment-4304819 In reply to PM4Life.

Off topic: does anyone know of a duplicate for Urban Decay 24/7 Glide on Lip pencil in the color Pandemonium? It is a medium soft purple. Extra brownie points if the dupe is drugstore price. thanks!

]]> By: PM4Life https://corporette.com/how-to-feel-more-authoritative/#comment-4304659 Tue, 24 May 2022 13:29:21 +0000 https://corporette.com/?p=131533#comment-4304659 On Zoom calls I make a point of breaking out:
Collared shirt
Diamond earrings
Understated makeup paired with a classic red lip
I drop my voice a little (I’m naturally a middling soprano) and emphasis my British-extraction accent. I speak in definite statements and shorter sentences than I’d use when speaking casually.
I make a point of not reacting strongly and attempt to channel the insouciance of a lion that’s just eaten a zebra and is now a little bored.
I’m a small (kind of fluffy looking) woman working in a male-dominated, conservative arena (insurance) and I’ve found that this kind of approach helps me register as authoritative or at the very least, someone to reckon with. Prior to adopting some of these mannerisms, I’d have men speaking over me…in presentations that I was giving. It still happens, but much less.

]]> By: Anonymous https://corporette.com/how-to-feel-more-authoritative/#comment-4304552 Mon, 23 May 2022 21:22:05 +0000 https://corporette.com/?p=131533#comment-4304552 I lower my voice, I’ve learned to be comfortable sitting in silence, and I sit up straight and hold very still when I’m making a point that has a lot of emotion behind it.

An unintentional power move happened after I gave birth in a hospital. I was determined to leave the hospital the day after giving birth (I was deeply unhappy with how hospital staff had handled my birth, the baby and I were both perfectly stable, and I wanted to get my family out of that building and never come back).

That morning I took my hair down from a bun on top of my head and combed it, and I put on liquid eyeliner and red lipstick, because those are things that I do to feel put together and like myself. My hair had been up for two days and even after combing it out it was a giant crazy lion mane.

The hospital staff thought my hair and makeup were completely weird and each staffer was visibly taken aback when they walked into my room and saw me.

“Oh! Uh. You’re wearing lipstick.”

“Yes I am because we’re leaving. Do you have our discharge paperwork ready yet? No? Ok come back when you do.”

“Your hair’s really big.”

“Yes it is. What’s the ETA on our paperwork?”

I knew that bright lipstick was a good power accessory, but that was the most impact I’ve ever seen it make.

]]> By: Anon https://corporette.com/how-to-feel-more-authoritative/#comment-4304475 Mon, 23 May 2022 19:24:02 +0000 https://corporette.com/?p=131533#comment-4304475 ‘I don’t understand this’ without embarrassment. Making it their responsibility to help me understand is basically a power move. Also useful: ‘I trust you’ and ‘I am proud of you’.

]]> By: Anon https://corporette.com/how-to-feel-more-authoritative/#comment-4304437 Mon, 23 May 2022 18:11:37 +0000 https://corporette.com/?p=131533#comment-4304437 When I misspeak I try not to get flustered or act like it’s something I need to be embarrassed about. Instead I correct myself slowly and clearly without rushing.

Also I have this ring that has a little hand flipping the bird. It’s too tiny for anyone else to really see. I wear that when I feel like I need a big boost of confidence.

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