FWIW, my mom sang with a Sweet Adeline group a few years ago in our town and she is not white. She enjoyed it for a while but quit after getting fed up with having to use a trowel to put on the makeup and grin from ear to ear while singing. Too cheesy for her.

Maybe have her make-up done? Next to hair color/style, that’s another area where it’s easy to start to look dated or feel like you’re in a rut. I went to the Bobbi Brown counter after my birthday last year and treated myself to some of their recommendations. I have to say that the blush she recommended (and learning how to apply it) did wonders to perk things up a bit.

While in the shower this morning, I thought of some other things that I did that boosted my confidence:

Sharp haircut
A blow-out wouldn’t hurt if your have time
Professional brow wax
Manicure (I did it myself – stepped up the hand cream in advance, paid attention to my cuticles, made sure nails were neat)
Maybe a massage the day before after some yoga for stress relief

Also, I cut down on anything that tends to cause bloat (like beans, brocolli, carbonated beverages).

I’m fine with hair down, as long as it is healthy and well-maintained. Granted, I worked in tech, informal tech at that, but hey, it’s not as though I’m surprised you have hair:).