Comments on: Should She Have a Baby During Law School? (What Point in Your Career IS The Best Time to Have a Baby?) https://corporette.com/have-a-baby-during-law-school/ A work fashion blog offering fashion, lifestyle, and career advice for overachieving chicks Mon, 24 May 2021 20:14:39 +0000 hourly 1 https://wordpress.org/?v=6.5.5 By: Anonymous https://corporette.com/have-a-baby-during-law-school/#comment-4061591 Mon, 03 Aug 2020 02:18:21 +0000 https://corporette.com/?p=100803#comment-4061591 I have a 1L summer baby, a 2L summer baby, and I’m expecting a baby towards the end of my clerkship. We don’t have local family and made it work just fine. You do you!
1L summer I interned for a judge with our highest state court; I told him I was pregnant in the interview so he could factor that into his decision. I started the summer as soon as my finals ended to make up for the time in hospital and worked in the chambers closer to home when I wasn’t allowed to go all the way to the main chambers (too far from hospital) and then worked remotely when my son was born. I think I took a week where I was only on email and didn’t do any writing.

2L year I worked remotely at a job that was a conflict of interest with required clinic work, so I took 2L summer off work. The only real logistical issue with my daughter was that she had to wait a little longer than my son for her daycare spot to open and my professors were not even remotely flexible, so I had to switch to as many night classes as I could. Mondays I had a couple day classes, so my husband and I took turns taking Mondays off for a few weeks. I was off for two weeks between my daughter’s birth and the start of the semester.

I’m much closer to home now and my husband is WFH so I’ll probably only take a few days for the hospital stay then work remotely til I get the staples out with my clerkship baby.

Bonus to having kids in law school: after 1L year you can make your own schedule and you have winter and spring breaks, so I got to spend a decent amount of time home while the kids were infants.

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By: Rising 2L https://corporette.com/have-a-baby-during-law-school/#comment-4050916 Mon, 06 Jul 2020 22:46:08 +0000 https://corporette.com/?p=100803#comment-4050916 Do folks have success stories of taking the bar while pregnant/timing to give birth between taking the bar and starting work?

My partner and I are both graduating in May 2022 (law school for me, masters for my husband) and I’ll turn 34 just before that July’s bar. I’m worried about pushing off having kids too long because we’d like to have more than 1 and waiting until at least a year into working will push my first pregnancy into the spooky 35+ zone. Neither of us were ready for kids before I decided I wanted to go back to school in 2017 but now I’m feeling the pressure of not thinking about this for so long. My husband starts his program this fall but will continue freelancing part-time throughout and is very reluctant to plan to have a child while we’re both in school. I think this is completely reasonable and also unfortunate because it takes a 3LOL baby off the table (at least for type-A planning purposes, I realize you can’t plan everything!).

Am I crazy for thinking that a late summer baby before an October (or January) start date could work? I’m in a secondary market with a low but rising COL. We have a solid community of friends but no family living nearby, though we have 3 semi-retired grandparents who might be able to fly in for a few weeks each.

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By: MS19 https://corporette.com/have-a-baby-during-law-school/#comment-4047560 Fri, 26 Jun 2020 15:51:35 +0000 https://corporette.com/?p=100803#comment-4047560 In reply to EB.

I was pregnant last spring during my 1L spring semester aka the Covid semester. I miscarried the baby at the end of the first trimester but will chime in to say: my first trimester was exhausting; i was tired, nauseous and emotional. My saving grace was that the exams were pass/fail and didn’t count. I am going to try and be pregnant for 2L fall and Winter OCI because of timing reasons (i am in my 30s) but I wouldn’t discount how hard a first trimester is on the body to say nothing of experiencing a loss (which messed me up emotionally) or infertility. Some things to consider:
your 1L fall semester grades and if your grades suffer Fall 2L, how well do students with your grades and soft factors do at OCI in your school?

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By: EB https://corporette.com/have-a-baby-during-law-school/#comment-4041094 Tue, 09 Jun 2020 00:23:35 +0000 https://corporette.com/?p=100803#comment-4041094 In reply to RL.

I’m the same age and basically in the same situation (just finished 1L year), so following along here as I am seeking the same advice! (I also posted a separate comment below seeking advice particularly noting the changes that have been made to OCI and law school as a result of COVID-19).

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By: EB https://corporette.com/have-a-baby-during-law-school/#comment-4041093 Tue, 09 Jun 2020 00:13:05 +0000 https://corporette.com/?p=100803#comment-4041093 Looking for advice on this, considering the changes to OCI and law school because of Coronavirus/COVID:

I just finished my 1L year, started law school at age 28, am married, a homeowner, and thinking about getting pregnant during 2L (like in a few months) or 3L.

The issue for us is that our whole plan got upended due to coronavirus. I wanted to wait until OCI was over so that I wasn’t pregnant at OCI (worried about discrimination) and so that I would have a job lined up.

But now instead of OCI being the summer after 1L, it has been pushed back to early spring of 2L. In addition, since 1L spring grades went pass/fail, now 2L fall grades matter in terms of OCI and job prospects as if they were 1L grades.

So we’re sort of back to square one as to whether or not to get pregnant this year. Thinking now we should wait until after OCI spring of 2L, but that really pushes back our timeline here, especially if OCI doesn’t go well and I need to keep job searching. Any advice on this would be greatly appreciated!

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By: RL https://corporette.com/have-a-baby-during-law-school/#comment-4029997 Wed, 13 May 2020 20:05:29 +0000 https://corporette.com/?p=100803#comment-4029997 I’m 29 and starting law school this fall. My husband and I have been together for 10+ years (married for 5.5), but haven’t had kids yet because we didn’t feel like we had enough financial/life stability before. We’re ready now, but we’ll be long distance for my 1L year so we’ve held off. Women who’ve done it or had friends who’ve done it: do you think 2L, 2L summer, or 3L would be the best time? We’ll be very near my parents who can babysit and I’m hesitant to wait too long (e.g. until after a clerkship) for biological reasons. Thanks so much in advance for any advice!

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